Is your relationship crumbling under expectations? Well, you’re not alone. In our swipe-right world, love often feels transactional – where people are chasing the highs of being in a relationship, but dodging the lows that come with it. But popular spiritual guru Sadhguru says that instead of being needy, one should be nurturing in a relationship– this mindset shift helps build connections that endure decades of love, not days. Forget fairy tales; this is practical spirituality for messy humans.In a video posted on his social media channels, Sadhguru talks about the two important shifts that help create mutual magic. Here’s what they are:

1. Approach as a means to “share,” not “extract”

Ever feel relationships turn sour when you’re both tugging for more? Sadhguru nails it: Stop demanding love from your partner, and start sharing instead. View your partner not as a happiness vending machine, but a fellow traveller to pour your joy into. Picture a couple: He shares stories from his hikes, she her kitchen experiments – no scorekeeping. Tension fades; laughter flows.As Sadhguru says, taking makes love “terrible,” a marketplace of misery. Sharing builds empires of ease. So, the next time you have an argument with your partner simply pause, and offer a solution first. And watch their walls dissolve. Sustainable love isn’t 50/50, it’s both giving their 100% to the relationship. Your fullness fuels theirs; and it ripples which creates an unbreakable bond.

2. Become the source of your own happiness

Here’s the game-changer: No one completes you – you’re whole already. Sadhguru teaches joy isn’t partner-dependent; it’s an inside job. Misery brews internally from unfulfilled cravings; outsource it, and relationships become crutches. Crutches break. Cultivate your bliss solo – meditate, dance wildly, chase sunsets, then invite your love to celebrate it together.Dependent couples cling: “You make me happy!” But when a bad day happens, it leads to a crisis in their relationship. On the other hand, when you are the source of your own joy, you have the power to amplify it. Sadhguru’s logic: Complete individuals express love from abundance, not lack.So, practice daily joy rituals (make gratitude lists, do breathwork). And if your partner’s mood dips, yours stays steady, lifting both emotionally.Do you agree with these tips? Tell us in the comments below.